1. Nothing ever happens "like in the movies". This is real life, NOT FICTION. Don't delude yourself in the fairytale trap.
2. The advice you get from your best friends, family, and dating books will be utterly useless to you... unless you decide to take it and completely follow through. Otherwise, get comfortable with being confused. None of that shit makes sense. Stay away.
3. Be in control. You set your boundaries. You also control how you will feel about someone. Don't fall into the victim trap.
4. Have a social life. It'll make all the disappointment hurt less. If you're too busy having fun, you won't notice that he hasn't called you in a week.
5. Chivalry is not dead -- let him chase you. Courtship is a must. And yes, you MUST be courted. Feminism did a lot for women; but it fucked up the dating game. Put yourself back in 1914 and let the man do his job.
6. Sex is messy. Just know that. It's not about doing it or not doing it. Just know that whatever you choose (or don't choose) to do, it's going to be difficult. My advice: wait as long as possible before you take it to that level... and talk about it a lot before, during, and after you do.
7. Communication is everything. If you can't be willingly open, honest, and vulnerable -- DON'T GET INVOLVED. If he is not willingly open, honest, and vulnerable -- DON'T GET INVOLVED. Communication is everything in a relationship. And ignoring that will not make things better.
8. Sticking around will not help. If he's not looking for a relationship... he's just not. Hanging around him won't change that. HE'S JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU. It sucks... but suck it up. Move on to someone who is.
9. Love hurts.
10. Be your own boyfriend. Be set in yourself before you go looking for the love of your life. YOU are the love of your life. Seriously. I'm a firm believer in the fact that it's not love until you can fart and shit with that person in the room. Well, you're always there when you're farting and shitting. So be on great terms with yourself first.
TO BE CONTINUED
About Michelle
Michelle has devised numerous battle plans and always has her heart armed with an AK-47 and lessons learned from past experiences. She's done some things, felt some things, said some things... but regrets nothing. When it comes to writing and loving, her style is: fast, raw, deep, purposeful, evocative, dangerous, infinite, and always seeking to transcend itself.
About Sabrey
Sabrey is now older and wiser..and hornier. She is: a living paradox--an imaginative realist, a fan of fearless experimentation and barenaked truths.(; Live, Love, and Fcuk as you please. We're young, we're free, we're wild..get used to it!
About Therese
Therese is an Enigma. There's no other way to put it really; she is: a hopeless romantic, a bitter cynic, a sex fiend, a romantic, crass and utterly feminine. She is what she is, take it or leave it. There's never a dull moment when she's involved, so hitch up your knickers and come along for the ride.
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